Married and sexually abused as a child?

We are married and were both sexually abused as children. My abuser was sentenced so I was forced to tell and retell my story. I feel like I have dealt with it pretty well. My husband has never fully disclosed in detail his stories. How do I help him overcome this? I do not want to force him to talk, but I can feel him disconnect at time. His cheating is becoming a problem and he is lacking in the bedroom with me.